Emma Victoria Harvey

11 May 1987 — 29 March 2001

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Emma was our third granddaughter...

...she was born with cystic fibrosis (CF), the terrible genetic mutation that clogs the respiratory system and demands a daily intake of massive doses of drugs – including enzymes before every snack and every meal – together with a punishing physiotherapy routine performed several times a day in order to keep the patient's lungs and digestive system in some sort of working order.

CF sufferers typically have a short life expectancy. At present, sufferers rarely survive beyond their teens, although there is some hope that a cure will emerge from current research into the potential of gene-replacement therapy.

Despite all this, Emma was a happy and contented child who, as time went by, began to show signs of developing a degree of intelligence somewhat above the average.

One example may suffice:
Every two weeks, Emma's parents – our second daughter Shirley and husband Alan – used to bring Emma to spend Saturday afternoon with my wife and I. As a toddler, Emma was quite content to play alone in the garden, talking to the neighbours' cat, or marking out play-houses on the lawn with pebbles. However, in the natural scheme of things she became bored with these pastimes as she grew older, and began to seek more stimulating challenges.

One of these was my PC, on which, at the age of ten or thereabouts, Emma would play happily in my study for

hours on end, writing stories or drawing pictures. One day she called me in to set up a project involving a graphics program that I'd recently bought. I was watching a rugby match on TV at the time and, mildly irritated at the interruption, I hurried through the fairly long and complex procedure, and returned to the rugby. At full-time my conscience took me back to my study, where I found Emma beavering away, using the same program but on a totally different project.

In amazement I asked "Emma dear, how on earth did you set that up?"
"I watched how you did it, papa" said Emma.

One evening in mid-March, 2001, Emma complained that she wasn't feeling well and, unusually for her, went to bed without taking her bath. When she showed no sign of improvement the next morning, her mum – always understandably cautious as far as Emma's health was concerned – took her along to Cherry Tree House, the Belfast Childrens' Hospital's superb treatment unit for CF teenagers, where Emma was well known. There she was admitted immediately and put to bed – where, after a few days of rapid deterioration in her condition, she lapsed into a coma and was rushed into intensive care. Ten days later, at 11 a.m. on March 29th 2001, and despite the heroic efforts of many wonderful people, our much-loved granddaughter died without regaining consciousness.

She was six weeks short of her fourteenth birthday.


I cannot imagine a blow more vicious than the one that struck Emma down. Despite the terrible hand that fate had already dealt her she was totally addicted to pony riding, she was enjoying life at her grammar school, and she was becoming ever more aware of the opportunities that lay before her. She had barely started on the process of developing from a funny, pretty, intelligent little girl into a charming, brilliant, lovely young lady when she was suddenly struck down in an especially savage way.

Emma deserved much, much better than she got. We loved her to bits.


'Suffer the little children...?' 'He who sees the sparrow's fall...?

If the tender, loving hand of gentle Jesus is at work here, I for one fail utterly to see it, and I guarantee that the massed ranks of Ulster evangelists who come regularly to my door to tell me all about their merciful saviour and his all-embracing love, are in for a very torrid time indeed.


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